I get the impression she's looking for a style a little lower-maintenance than 1920's stuff - I have thick wavy hair, which should be perfect for finger-waving and at the right length falls like Renee Zellwegger's in the movie version of Chicago (I know, spelled her name wrong). But it NEVER looked like that because I wasn't willing to spend an hour and/or shellac it to my head with gel (real curly hair does NOT lay smooth like that with just water, let alone stay that way all day under wind and humidity).

For which I can only suggest that a pixie is the most feminine *very* short, low-maintenence style I know of. Doing something a couple inches longer and spikier would certainly work with the punk aspect. But sadly, the Victorian era had no short hairstyles whatsoever for women; the first ones are the 1920s ones requieminblack mentions, and those are mostly ear-length to chin-length bobs. Which if your hair is that long, and you don't mind it hanging in your face and/or sitting on the back of your neck (I couldn't stand it), are pretty easy to manage as well... as long as you let it be more casual instead of trying to do the super-sleek 20s thing.

And of course, there's always wigs if you want a Victorian look for costumes.

This is darling... I think I'd pair it with something regency based.